When I was a teenager, one thing that scared me the most was
chatting up women, especially strangers. Making the initial
approach felt impossible and made me feel like I had completely
lost strength in my feet. It simply made me shut down!
Now, two decades later, I can’t wrap my head around what it is
that I was so afraid of.
Now, two decades later, I can’t wrap my head around what it is
that I was so afraid of.
The truth is, you and I can overcome fear and easily do the things
that we once thought impossible, simply because we now have
experience. I was able to push through those frightening
moments and conversation. Now, I can strike up a conversation
with every person I find, on the train, coffee shop, or at the office.
I have the confidence to do pretty much anything I put my mind
to. It is just like learning to drive on the highway for the first
time. At first, it was scary, but with time, you adjust, and your
body learns that it does not kill you.
Well, this kind of confidence is what is referred to as experiential
confidence. It is the type of confidence that you gain through
experience. You have developed this type of confidence at some
point in your life. The first step is to have the courage to act and
take risks. Each time you fail, you build that confidence because
derstand that failure is not permanent.
One thing that you have to appreciate is all the things that did
not work out in your life because they allowed you to learn. It is
through the past failures that we have confidence today. Therefore, if you want to build your experiential confidence, the
first thing that you need to ask yourself is what is the worst thing
that could happen if you fail? Will you die? If not, then there is
no reason to back down. You must understand that everything
you act against fear, you grow your experiential confidence, and
all the tasks that is difficult now will be easy later on.